Guest post by Yogasteya blogger Melissa Hite
I was in the company of some pretty awesome women Friday afternoon. We gather every month, and when I am with them I feel surrounded by members of my tribe. I feel at home. We were having a discussion about how we were influenced by our parents, about expectations, and about how we choose to live now. The concept of easy came up in the midst of our lively discussion – it was a concept I had been thinking about for a while, but had been confounded by most recently.
For some clarity, I researched the definition of ‘easy’ on Google, and was met with the following:
eas·y | ˈēzē/ | adjective
Achieved without great effort; presenting few difficulties. Example: An easy way of retrieving information
Synonyms: uncomplicated, undemanding, effortless, painless, trouble-free, facile, simple, straightforward, elementary
As I rolled around the concept of easy in my mind, I contemplated my definition of life. I had arrived at the decision that life, in order to be fulfilling and successful, couldn’t be easy. At some point along the way, I had decided that life would be hard…after all, wasn’t that what it was all about – working hard in order to be successful?
I clearly remember being told that “things are not easy”. My favorite adages were: “nothing easy is worth having” and “life is just hard.” When you hear these types of sentiments over and over, you eventually believe them… right?
But should we really believe this archaic wisdom?
What if I had grown up believing that life WOULD be easy? What if I believed that life was amazing, and that I could achieve great things without great effort? What would that be life – how would my life had been different?
Don’t get me wrong…I’m not saying that we shouldn’t work. Work is fine. I love my work…it’s what I do every day and I’m blessed to do it. But what if I had made the shift, deciding that life was going to be easy, years ago?
A few years ago, I learned that I could decide what kind of day I was going to have. I could wake up and decide I was going to have a good day. I learned how to practice mindfulness, and be present for each moment. I believe that is when I started to learn that life could be EASY too!
I’m not saying without effort, and I’m definitely not saying without challenges. But I am saying that we can meet these endeavors, all of our endeavors, with an attitude of ease. We can decide that we will be light, and re-frame how we approach our lives. We can connect to each moment, and in doing so, we can live an inspired life.
So the next time you reach for your yoga mat, give this a try and test my theory. See if you can approach your practice from a place of joy and welcoming. Set an intention to challenge yourself, but do so in an easy, and playful way. Explore your own ability to decide that your body is doing exactly what it is supposed to do — with ease. Relax into your skin and rest assured in knowing that it is easy to be there.
Will you give it a try this week? Set an intention to move through your day with ease. Just give it a shot and see what happens…you might be surprised!
Peace, love and ease, y’all. Peace, love and ease.
Melissa Hite is a yoga teacher and creative explorer. She began practicing yoga a decade ago, and grew that practice into her life on and off the mat. She spent a few too many years living someone else’s dream, but she took the leap in 2013 and built her wings in flight. Melissa practices from a body-positive, intentional space. She brings joy and humor to the mat, and loves to share the practice of yoga with people who are connecting with themselves in new ways. Along with teaching, she facilitates workshops, teacher training and is writing her way into the new year.